Advice! Please!
So I’m having some relationship issues.. It would be amazing if some one would talk to me about. I need some opinions.. :/
Well here it goes…
So when I first moved to AMDA i met this guy and we both liked each other right away, and we had a thing for a while, but then this other girl kissed him. He told me about it right away and I said it was fine because we weren’t officially dating, so it’s not like he was cheating on me or anything.
So we continued to be together, just not officially, and then he starts being all distant. I talked to him about it and he said that he had feelings for that other girl, but yet we continued to be somewhat together. Then a few weeks later he started being distant again and when I confronted him about it he said that his homework was piling up and that he still had feelings for his ex and so we couldn’t be together. Which I of course didn’t like, but I accepted.
But then a few days later I find out that he was lying and had started dating the other girl and had slept with her before he had even talked to me and ended things with me. So then I was ridiculously upset.
I talked to him about it and he told me that he was really confused and that he didn’t know who he wanted to be with. I told him he needed to decide and I gave him until the end of the weekend to decide or I was done.
By Saturday night he had told me that he picked me, and we went and talked to the other girl and broke up with her. But he told her he was picking neither of us, because he didn’t want to hurt her again.Then a few days later he asked me to be his girlfriend, and everything from then until a 2 days ago was wonderful!
But now the other girl just got back from Christmas break, and he has been hanging out with her all the time. He told me he still has feelings for her and still doesn’t know who he wants to be with for sure. But he says he’s with me, so he’s going to try to forget about her.
I just don’t know what to do. Because he keeps acting like he might still choose her over me. And it sucks. Under other circumstances I would just say Fuck it and let her have him, but I’m really starting to fall in love with him. So I don’t know how to do that.
I’m also worried that he’s just picking me by default because she has made if very clear that she doesn’t trust him and won’t be with him again because he’s hurt her too many times.
And he also hasn’t even told her that we’re dating.
I just don’t know what to do. I’m going crazy!!
Anybody have any advice?
I would love you forever!!
It’s not ok,
Sonya Noelle